Chiara Fritzler is a 40-something single mom of a dynamo toddler who is feisty, loving, and hilarious… just like her mom. Chiara has found her passion and life’s purpose in writing, and is a ghostwriter, author, and blogger. Her eBook and workbook about supporting those going through a tough time sold out in 24 hours, and has since helped so many who struggle with the “right thing to say”. She is a contributor to Mama Brain magazine, is currently co-authoring two books that will be released in 2021, and is a consultant. She has an unhealthy obsession with Hawkins cheezies and gummy coke bottles, only drinks red wine, coffee and water, and loves playing soccer.
In this episode:
Unfortunate blessings are the challenging times & circumstances that can provide clarity & positive change.
Successful co-parenting, for Chiara, is based on her daughter knowing that both of her parents love her.
All of your baggage should be carry on. We all have baggage but have you dealt with it enough that you can manage it?
Post-traumatic growth With the proper supports in place & the proper outlook, we can discover things about ourselves that we wouldn’t know otherwise.
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On this episode of The Part-Time Jungle Podcast, I had a great conversation with Chiara! We talked about unfortunate blessings, co-parenting, post traumatic growth, how all your baggage should be carry on, and so much more!
If you prefer to listen, check out Episode 35 of The Part-Time Jungle Podcast.
Full disclosure, Chiara and I have been friends since we were 7 years old and best friends for most of that time! We have literally been through all the ages and stages of life together. This episode doesn’t divulge the many adventures we have shared together or the memories we have made. That’s for another time. However, I know you will be inspired by Chiara and her story, her authenticity, and her heart of gold.
A CHANGE IN PERSPECTIVE
Chiara is a single mom and someone who works part-time and sort of full-time. Before becoming a mom, she never thought that if she had children, that she would want to stay at home with them. Chiara was so career focused and so oriented on climbing that ladder. She didn’t understand why women would give up their careers to stay at home with children. Chiara felt that she always had the best advice and the most keen insight on being a mom and parenting before she actually became one.
Chiara had some unfortunate blessings come through her life where she actually was headhunted by a company that seemed really great at the time. They hired her for a director position and then, they laid her off three months later. This was right when the oil and gas industry started to crash and work was really hard to find. At this time, Chiara and her now ex-husband were also going through fertility treatments.
A LACK OF IDENTITY
Chiara felt like she had no identity. She didn’t have a career and she didn’t have a child. Chiara plunged into a deep depression and didn’t know what to make of herself. She calls this an unfortunate blessing because it forced her to figure out who she was, aside from all of the definitions and titles that we give ourselves and other people give us. Her husband would tell her that she was his wife and he loved her. For Chiara, that wasn’t enough. She didn’t want just that to be her thing. Chiara needed to figure out who she was aside from what other people said.
BECOMING A MOM
Chiara ended up getting pregnant and had a daughter who’s now two and a half years old. At the time she was working part-time doing some consulting on and off in the field of occupational health and safety. Becoming a mom really changed her world and the person she thought that she wanted to be.
All of a sudden,